I've heard there are
uxurious husbands.
These men show excessive
affection and devotion for
their wives. They are undone.
Amused. Charmed. The
Amused. Charmed. The
wife of such a man is
cherished and considered
precious. He lets her
know when he's grateful,
and exactly how and why
he appreciates her. He
isn't afraid to risk the
vulnerability of showing
her the degree to which he is
smitten by her sensuality,
smitten by her sensuality,
enthralled by her wisdom,
intrigued by her creativity,
amazed by her strength,
and dazzled by her beauty.
Her influence on him is considered
a welcomed gift, never a threat.
He seems blind to her limitations
and forgets to be offended.
He has her best interests at
heart and believes it's mutual.
It tickles him to indulge her silly
fancies, to care, to be interested.
He cheerfully dotes on her whims
and supports her dreams.
He doesn't mind when other
men define his submissive
fondness in derogatory terms like --
pussy-whipped, cuckold, sucker,
whimp, or gullible pushover
whose wife has him by the balls --
because he doesn't see their wives
looking at them with wanting
desire in their eyes. He doesn't
mind when other men mock
his attentive, loving attunement
because he doesn't see their
wives reaching out to hold hands
or look big eyed at them like heroes.
He shrugs off the macho advise
about wearing the pants and
being the real leader of the home
because his foolish looking uxorious
ways gives him access as often as he
wishes to come inside her luxurious
secret garden and play. And
heal. And have intimacy. And be
the beloved of the beloved.
Craig and I just came back from a week long tent camping trip out on Sequim Bay. We took our bikes
in order to enjoy Discovery Trail. We averaged about twenty miles a day for 6 days. It was a relaxing, fun, restorative time. I noticed how much ease and enjoyment we have after 26 years together. I really, really like being with my friend and lover. I love to play together. I hope we have many years more to do so.
I would credit The Gottman's work for giving us most of the tools we needed to get to this place. They mention the uxurious husband. I had never heard the word. When I researched it, it resonated with me and prompted this. I recognized him. He's mine and I am his.
I would credit The Gottman's work for giving us most of the tools we needed to get to this place. They mention the uxurious husband. I had never heard the word. When I researched it, it resonated with me and prompted this. I recognized him. He's mine and I am his.
